“When I first found out I was pregnant with Torrey; I didn’t know adoption was the right choice for me at that point in my life. My mind kept racing…I can’t be pregnant…I don’t know what to do…I don’t even know who the father is… I can’t raise a child…I can’t have an abortion….I’m still in school… I don’t want to raise a child right now. I am still making a career and life for myself. I don’t even have a partner. I want to make the right decision. Should I put my child up for adoption? Will I never see him again if I choose adoption? I want to be apart of his life and watch him grow. Although I was completely unsure in my decision very early on, I chose to keep my pregnancy a secret. I figured it would be easier than having to answer a bunch of random questions”.
Making an adoption with MAYA Organization has been the best decision I have made for myself and my child. I was welcomed to a group of warm and caring women. Their main goal was to make sure I was making the right decision for myself. I was never pressured. I was given mounds of information and resources to help me. I also received unlimited support, from counseling, to meeting adoptive parents to having a doula trained in adoption present for my labor and delivery. It was important to me that I able to make all the decisions about my child.
MAYA Organization showed me family profiles. There was one profile that I really felt connected too. A wonderful couple were in their 30’s, had been married for some time, had a home, a dog and a cat, a close extended family and they had already adopted a little boy. I could see my child growing up in the home and environment they created. I had decided this adoption had to be open and they were sharing an open adoption with the Birth Mother of their first child. The first time I met them was at a restaurant over lunch. I loved them immediately. I had time to decide after meeting them that first time I told them I wanted them to be the parents parent my baby. We hugged and they cried tears of joy, even the dad. It was very moving and showed how dedicated they would be to my child.
We met a few times over the next months. I met their son. We discussed names. We discussed whether it was a boy or a girl. And honestly, the whole time I told myself it was going to be a boy. I decided to wait until the baby was born to find out the gender. The adoptive parents were very supportive of this decision. I literally talked myself out of any bond between the child I was carrying. I thought it would make everything easier when the time came to place the baby with “his” new family.
I had an easy pregnancy and the adoptive parents were in the room when the baby was born. When “she” was born the doctors asked if I wanted to hold her. I told them to let her parents hold her first. There wasn’t a dry eye in the room between the doula, nurses and adoptive parents. The bond they had with her was amazing.
It is a bonus that the bond the adoptive parents have with me is just as amazing. I truly love them as extended family. I am so happy that my daughter is growing up in such a wonderful family, which I continue to be a part of! The staff at MAYA was there with me every step of the way. I am so grateful for the support I received. The greatest thing is I am still welcomed at the agency, with open arms, anytime I need any type of support.